No one on one contact (or communication)

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Why it's important

Sexual predators try to normalize one on one interactions with their victims.  This is a key part of the grooming process.  It allows the predator to have interactions with the child that otherwise would not be acceptable.  It also eliminates those who may stop the predator, stand up for the victim, or act as a witness to the crime.


Even when sexual abuse is not the intent of the interaction, one on one contact or communication can be dangerous.  It opens the door to accusations of impropriety, creating unnecessary liability for leaders and organizations.  It can also lower the inhibitions of children to these situations, leading to possible abuse down the road.


One on one includes being alone with and/or communicating privately with a child.

How to avoid it

Never have a minor alone with an adult.  Teach adults and minors that all communication should be in the open.  Any digital messaging should include the parents of the minor or should be in a group format.


There are rare exceptions to this rule that will be outlined below.  However, in nearly every instance, one on one contact or communication is dangerous.

Watchdog Scoring for No One on One Contact:

10 points Available:

  • 2 points: Does the organization allow one adult to be alone in a car with one minor?
  • 2 points: Does the organization allow one adult to be alone in a room with one minor?
  • 2 points: Does the organization allow one adult to privately message/call a minor?
  • 2 points: Under any other circumstance is an adult permitted to be alone with a minor?
  • 2 points: Is there an established and followed protocol for violations of the above policy?

Are there exceptions to this rule?*

Yes.  There are a few limited exceptions which may include the following individuals:

  1. A trusted family member of the minor
  2. State licensed therapists or doctors who are regularly engaged in the 1 on 1 treatment of a minor


*Extreme caution should still be taken in the above situations.  Just because an individual meets the above criteria does not mean leaving them alone with a minor is safe.